Grief Always follows love
It hurts to lose somebody! All of us have, will, and know somebody who is experiencing grief. Know what to do, how to hurt, and when to ask for help. Let one or more of these things sink in and make you think about doing something differently.
Life is short and this is it! Too often we get caught up in spending too much time reflecting and remembering and worrying about having plenty of time to get it all done.
Grief can destroy you or help you to focus. Getting stuck on regret can be a downfall. Making note of lessons learned and allowing hopeful desires to pull us forward can increase our attention on new ventures.
Grief may feel like it’s all for nothing or help you realize it was everything. Learning to live without regrets and disappointments may assist in finding a new lease of satisfaction.
Grief is forever and it is a part of who you are. We should not think that we can forget who and what we loved. It is part of our story and what has made us what we are.
Grief should not consume you. There is no need for elimination of the pain or memories but instead needs to be a sense of recovery and a new interest in daily life. Grief is part of our statement of our ability to love.
Intense concern and despair may cause you to feel irrational. Avoid allowing the “craziness” of loss to take more than a moment from you. Be real with your emotions and expectations and live out loud.
Grief and love are joined. You never get one without the other. It’s the price you pay for love.
What is something you need to do for yourself or for somebody else? Eat a nice meal, call a friend and make a plan to do something, journal your experiences and feelings, get outside of yourself and do something for somebody else, or call a therapist and get unstuck.
